tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-697481505284678778.post6496366190565214738..comments2023-03-24T03:39:41.391-05:00Comments on Kay's View from the Window: It's been a yearKayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12536112183126685894noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-697481505284678778.post-5542214491117442112011-05-31T06:52:51.076-05:002011-05-31T06:52:51.076-05:00I found a book, at the library. The title is "...I found a book, at the library. The title is "About Grief". I cried when I read the prologue, I cried when I read the first page. I am probably about 7 pages in, and I have quit crying. In the first few pages there is a poem:<br /><br />"You think that the worst thing that can happen to you is their dying. Then they stay dead"<br /><br />There is a monument, from a Mom who lost her son. Dark Elegy. I googled it, and cried some more. I can't remember what I did when I found out he died. I can only remember thinking it couldn't be real.Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12536112183126685894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-697481505284678778.post-71940931769692692422011-05-31T00:13:30.207-05:002011-05-31T00:13:30.207-05:00The faded feelings you describe isn't faded lo...The faded feelings you describe isn't faded love. It's a gradual learning of how to cope with the loss that's making it sting less on a daily basis, so that you can continue to go on living your life. The love is still there in all its glory.<br /><br />It's like a canal. The waters will rise behind the barrier and when the time is right, you'll release the river. Then you'll be level and calm. The barrier will close and again will continue to build up pressure till you again need a release.<br /><br />Grief in this later stage is much the same way. You're not forgetting him; you're remembering how to live. And that's very good.Jendra Berrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13529199296075685805noreply@blogger.com